Keys to Online Dating Message Success - Part 2 of 2
If I had to pick THE biggest mistake people make while online dating, and definitely when writing their first few online dating messages it is that they don't know what they are looking for. I don't mean to suggest you need to close all doors to people unless they meet your 103 point checklist, but you do need to have a general idea. Are you willing to date people from other religions? How about dating people from other ethnicities? These are the big obvious questions, but there are many more that are much more detailed and each person has their own.
Content: There are some basic rules to communicating romantically that translate well to writing your online dating messages. If you have all of the above points covered, then you are ready to write that message.
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First let's talk about the subject line. You think I am kidding, but in email marketing an inordinate amount of testing goes into deciding what subject line to use to get the most people to open and read an email. It is just a fact; a boring subject line will guarantee that your online dating messages will collect dust with the other 146 dull messages gotten that day. Give it some thought; maybe bounce it off a friend. No need to get paralyzed over this, but I don't want you to ignore it.
Include questions but no pick up lines. You are not in a bar. Remember that "do or die" moment does not apply when writing online dating messages. You can edit at leisure. Very short messages will typically not pique enough interest and very long messages will seem desperate or overdone. Two to three paragraphs should do it. One thing does apply to one-liners and online dating messages alike though; you need to communicate confidence. So once you are done, read your message out loud, that usually is a good acid test. Try and reword what you think might be sounding wimpy or dorky, but no thesaurus please. This takes us to the next point: honesty.
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Be true: It makes absolutely no sense to re-package yourself. You are YOU, there is no changing that. I guarantee that your online dating experience and your relationships into the future will run smoother if you just accept that and move on. Be true to yourself whenever and wherever you can. Social convention sometimes might have you compromise, don't worry it happens, we don't live in a vacuum. But when it comes to finding a long term partner you should not. You CAN find someone that loves you for yourself and I can tell you by experience, finding that type of relationship has no equal.
Remember, relax, know what you want and be true to yourself. Those are the most important overarching factors when writing your online dating messages. In terms of content, have a good profile and picture, 2 to 3 paragraphs, some questions and a positive attitude. Make your online dating messages an extension of your day to day self. You won't be disappointed with the results.